Let’s Be Honest..

I think it’s a simple concept, being single, for most people, is difficult. There is the struggle of feeling alone. Wondering if there is something about you that is unattractive. Wondering if there is anyone out there for you. Not knowing if marriage is part of Gods plan for your life. Feeling like you don’t fit in with your coupled up friends, especially if you are in that stage of life where your friends all seem to be getting married.
There are a ton of things that run through the mind of a single person. No, we don’t sit and think about it 24/7, but it’s definitely something we pay attention to. Maybe too much.
Lately I’ve had a few friends talking to me about it in different areas. In discernment, trying to find the right person. That’s tough, how do you know you’ve found the one? In lonliness, wishing they had companionship of any kind, whether it be forever or not. In lack of experience, waiting for that first kiss.
I’ve been pouring out bible verses, and sending out texts of encouragement to my friends.
I’m not breaking new ground here, Jer 29:11 Rom 8:28 Psalm 32:8 Psalm 27:14 all verses speaking on waiting on God, and knowing He has a perfect plan for you.
If you really trust God, you have to stop fretting over this. He flat out says that everything that is happening, where you are in life now, your circumstances, and that includes your lack of a relationship, are for a reason. If Gods best for you was to be with someone now, then you would be with them now. If you aren’t, then know it is not what is best for you, or for the kingdom.
Personally, I want the relationship I end up in, to glorify God. Now, I don’t have a clue how to do that other than to keep his commandments within that relationship. However, God knows exactly what he wants to do with me, and my (possible) future husband. So I won’t worry about being alone now. That’s how God wants it, so it must be right.

Now here is the let’s be honest part.

Sometimes, no matter how many times we hear those verses, and even knowing they are true.. it is just HARD to listen to it. Sometimes we just hurt, we get lonely, we long for companionship. It’s natural. All I really want to get across with this is that, we are all human, and we are going to falter. We won’t always be strong in this area. Currently, I feel fine, I feel like I am right where God wants me and I feel so blessed by the friendships I have, and the hope of a future with a great man someday. But that isn’t always the case.
Sometimes I want to complain, sometimes I want to cry, sometimes I want to be bitter. I’m a fallen human being.

If you are single. Find a single friend, that is strong in thier walk, and know that you can turn to them when you feel this way. I love being there for my friends, and I love having people that are there for me.

Sometimes, praying, and talking with others in your situation is all you can do until the hurt passes.

The Lord will take care of you, He has not forgotten about you. Just wait.
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You say love is just a word, just four letters in a row.
Just a thing that people say, or they never tell you so.
And you use every excuse, to let nobody in.
Now this cloud you bring around, has become your only friend.

And everybody saying that it’s going to go away, but it don’t go.
And everybody’s telling you one day it’s going to change,
but you don’t know, if it’s really going to end.
But there is a way, there is a spark,
there is a hope that you can hold on to.
There is a lifeline come to the rescue,
just like a hand that’s waiting for you.
And if you believe in this I promise that you won’t be alone.
There is a way, the truth and the life, and the way.

But if love became a man, if the word had flesh and bone.
Would you recognize His face, if He came to bring you home.
You think you’re all alone, gotta do it on your own riding solo.
Is there someone you can call, when you stumble and fall?
Cause you don’t know, if you’ll be getting up again.

-Newworldson-