Drowning Out Negativity

My friend Sara posted a blog last night, and it was right up my alley. So I wanted to go ahead and write my own thoughts on the subject.

Being single can be a struggle sometimes, at least that’s true for me. Usually it’s not a big thought on my brain, hasn’t been since high school, the pressure of having to be with someone just isn’t there and as a result I don’t typically care that much. Yeah, I want to get married and have a family one day, but that’s on God’s timing so I don’t worry about it. However, the Devil will take whatever he can get to try to get you to forget what God has already said is true. In Saras case, and in my case, he uses that single thing a lot. Doesn’t get to me like it used to, but it still has some power. The lies he loves to come whisper in my ear sound like this: “You just aren’t likable..” “See that girl, she is what you should be if you ever want to be happy.” But that is all complete crap. God has already told me otherwise, so why waste anytime even thinking those things could be true. Gods love, his agape love, is so much bigger than anything that could pull me down.

I remember a night a few years back when I was in high school. I don’t remember what was upsetting me, I’m sure it was some guy, but all these negative thoughts about my self just started flooding my mind, it was SO thick in that room, the negativity, and it was so ridiculous that I realized very suddenly that those thoughts were not from God.. so I basically flipped out, I’m pretty sure I literally yelled out loud for the evil freakin demons to go away because I wasnt gonna hear their crap, and I started praying, that God will be the one to fill my thoughts. Ever since that day, this hasn’t been as much of a struggle. It still is a struggle, but nothing like it was. Because I have the knowledge that God is bigger.

And on top of that, this is God’s plan. Right now, being single is where he wants me, so it’s where I want to be. I get to use this time to grow in my relationship with God. I get to figure out who I am, and what I want in life, without someone else to worry about. Honestly, it’s kind of nice. I see my friends that are in relationships and they are covered in drama constantly, it’s because they keep wasting time with guys that are NOT meant to be with them. So they get a lot of drama, because that isn’t who God has set up for them. And they are missing out on some sweet “me time”.

It’s just funny, because I realized on Sunday how good my current situation really is. I got to go to my amazing church. My morning starts with run throughs of Powerhouse where I laugh my butt off because of the people I get to work with. I get to go to a great worship service where I can worship my amazing God and hear some wisdom from my pastor. I get to act for some amazing kids, and teach my small group. I get big hugs from some amazing kids (Nate Bledsoe almost broke my ribs this week I think.. ).  And when all is said and done I go in the lobby and have gobs of friends I get to talk to. And this is all before lunch time.. ha. That particular Sunday I went to a Disney resort and hung out with another group of friends I have that I adore from work and Aloma Baptist. Hung out by the pool, played volleyball, hung out in the hot tub, played pool, checkers, and just had a lot of fun with my friends.

Why would having a guy in my life had made that any more fun?

Maybe it would have, maybe it wouldn’t have. I don’t really need to think about it because it was a great day exactly the way it was.

Sara is one of my great friends. And I see her struggle with this the way I used to. I work with students that I see struggle with this. I know that feeling, and it sucks, but it doesn’t have to be there. That’s what i want to communicate SO badly to people. The majority of people reading this (because I know my blog reader demographic haha) won’t entirely benefit from this because they are married or in relationships. But I know they may know someone that isn’t.

So, to those girls that are hearing that lie day in and day out, shut it out.
Stop belieivng that you aren’t worth something unless a guy says so. That is such a dangerous lie. And I know it is loud, and in your face, and sometimes life throws big fat reminders in your face. But screw that, drown all that out with the truth: God loves you, he has a PERFECT plan for you, and the person he has for you is worth the waiting.